How to pray For Someone In Bondage

COUNSELOR’S CORNER
By Alfred H. Ells, M.C.

Volume II, Issue 2

HOW TO PRAY FOR SOMEONE WITH
MENTAL, EMOTIONAL OR BEHAVIORAL PROBLEMS

“What can we do? He is wandering the streets of downtown LA.”

The caller was a worried mother whose adult son had been drinking heavily. The family had tried to get him into treatment but he refused help and continued to abuse alcohol. Even though I was Director of an alcohol and drug abuse facility, I had no answers for this family. What do you do when someone refuses help?

Before hanging up the phone I offered to pray for the mother and her alcoholic son. It then came to me to suggest that the family organize a prayer campaign, asking God’s help. Encouraged, she agreed to organize all the relatives into teams to fast and pray one day a week for the problem son.

I forgot about the phone call until one spring morning three months later. The admissions clerk at our residential treatment facility said a man from California was waiting in the hall seeking admission. To my surprise, it was the alcoholic son who had been living on the streets of LA!

He shared his story, recounting how in a drunken stupor he had purchased a bus ticket for San Diego and had somehow ended up in Phoenix. Getting off the bus early that morning he asked a stranger where he could buy a drink. The stranger was a graduate of our program and instead convinced the alcoholic son he needed treatment.

A strange coincidence or the hand of God?

From this incident and many others, I have come to believe what John Wesley once said, “God does everything through prayer and nothing without it.” Prayer is possibly the most essential ingredient for overcoming mental, emotional and behavioral problems. The issue is not whether to pray, but how to pray. Through experience, I have found that certain ways of praying are more effectual than others (James 5:16). Consider the following tips on how to pray for someone who is experiencing problems and needs healing.

Suggestions

1. Make it a prayer-project not just prayer.

A project is a plan of action or an undertaking that requires effort, organization and dedication. Mental, emotional or behavioral problems are strongholds in people’s lives that are powerful and deeply entrenched in the individual’s personality. Alcoholism, drug abuse, depression, irresponsibility, passivity, sexual obsession, etc. all require considerable prayer effort to effect change. A difficult or powerful problem is just that . . . powerful. It has power over the individual. The individual does not have power over it. E.M. Bounds, a man of God noted for his understanding of prayer has stated, “Much prayer, much power; little prayer, little power; no prayer, no power.”

2. Seek a specific strategy on when to pray.

God has a plan of healing and deliverance for each person that is experiencing mental, emotional or behavioral difficulties. While there are certain common times (such as morning devotions) to pray for someone who, for example, is addicted to drugs, there is also a unique plan or strategy on when to pray for a specific individual. When praying last year for a relative of mine, the strategy God encouraged me to adopt was to pray for him for fifteen minutes every day on the way to work. I also prayed for him whenever I saw a Jeep on the highway, since he drove a Jeep. Another family member felt led to pray and fast a day a week for him. Other family members joined the prayer and fasting effort on certain weekdays. Three months ago he was sovereignly delivered from drugs.

3. Ask God for wisdom and guidance on how to pray.

Differing problems require different understanding and types of prayer. For example, when praying for my family member I was led to pray prayers of deliverance from the obsession and desire to use drugs. Other family members felt more led to pray for his safety, health and relationships. Trust that God will orchestrate the types of prayers needed and seek what you are supposed to pray.

4. Pray specifically for what you know the person needs.

The family in California that prayed for the alcoholic son made their prayers very specific. When I informed his mother that he had ended up in Phoenix at our doorstep, she praised the Lord stating that was her abiding prayer. She and the family had prayed that God would use whatever means were necessary to bring him to Phoenix for treatment at our facility.

5. Pray for the eyes of their understanding (Ephesians 1:17-19) to be opened and the denial broken.

Personal problems and behavioral bondages must first be recognized and ownership assumed for the difficulty, before change can occur. If an individual is in denial of how powerful the bondage is, he or she will not take the steps necessary for change. The person will also blame others for his or her own problem. This is usually true for men who are sexually obsessed. The husband will complain of his wife’s lack of interest in sex instead of recognizing and taking ownership for his own compulsive need for sex. The more he blames and pressures her, the more her desire for sex wanes. She will feel more and more guilty while he becomes more resentful and obsessive.

6. Pray for revelation of the root issues that are empowering the problem.

Every powerful problem has hidden issues that make the problem resistant to change. Recently, when counseling a couple, it became clear that the wife had been deeply hurt by a prior relationship. As a self-protective measure she vowed never again to trust someone she loved. Most of the marital conflict revolved around her distrust. She called frequently and checked on him at work. If he went out of town on business she would search his suitcase. She accused him of having extra-marital intentions with the women he worked with. Once the root issue was revealed, she recanted the vow she had made and was able to begin trusting him.

7. Pray the word.

God states that the truth shall set you free (John 8:32) and that not only will His word not return void (Isaiah 55:11) but that all Scripture is profitable for doctrine, reproof, correction and instruction in righteousness (2 Timothy 3:16). This is what people need. Mental, emotional or behavioral strongholds always have lies that maintain the power of the problem over the person’s life. For example, someone suffering from depression will believe a number of self-defeating lies (I’m just a failure . . . nobody cares…) that prevent him or her from recognizing the truth of their identity in Christ and overcoming the depression.

8. Prayers of identification are especially helpful.

A prayer of identification is one wherein the person praying intercedes for another by identifying with the person’s sin before God. Nehemiah did this on behalf of his family and the children of Israel (Nehemiah 1:6). When I prayed for my family member, I knew I needed to ask God to have mercy on him for all the sin he was committing. I confessed those sins to God and asked for God’s forgiveness on his behalf. Whether you consider mental, emotional or behavioral problems to be sin, sickness or syndrome, sin is always involved. The lack of recognition and repentance of sin is an obstacle to the release of God’s grace.

9.

Do spiritual warfare.

It is true that we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness (Ephesians 6:12). What this means on a practical basis is that every powerful mental, emotional and behavioral problem is multi-faceted and has more than one contributing component. The spiritual realm of demonic presence must not be ignored. For example, even though we know that alcoholism has a biochemical component, it is also true that the compulsion to drink is a spiritual phenomenon and therefore subject to prayer. Remember, our weapons are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds (2 Corinthians 10:4).

10. Be persistent . . . don’t give up.

I believe people give up too soon on prayer. In our modern instant-access society we often expect healing and change to be quick or instantaneous. I counseled and prayed for a woman with anorexia for over two years. Nothing seemed to break the power of the eating disorder in her life. I set aside times of fasting and prayer. She remained stuck in her disorder, weighing only 50-60 pounds. During one particularly anointed time of fasting and prayer, I felt directed to offer prayers of identification for her and her family in ways I had not done before. I sensed a breakthrough. Miraculously, she began eating the next day and has done well ever since. A strange coincidence or the hand of God?


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This article was taken from the Counselor’s Corner, VOLUME II, ISSUE 2, published by Counselor’s Corner. Used with permission.

Alfred Ells is a senior therapist with New Life Clinic, a Christ-centered counseling and educational ministry. He is a gifted marriage and family counselor, seminar speaker and author of several best-selling books, including One Way Relationships, Released to Love and Family Love.

Al has been counseling and consulting with churches, organization and individuals for over twenty years. He earned his Masters of Counseling degree at Arizona State University. He founded “House of Hope Counseling;” assisted in the establishment of “Hope Community (Rapha-Hope)” in Scottsdale; a Christ -centered residential addictions treatment facility, “Remuda Ranch;” a Christ centered program for women with anorexia or bulimia, located in Wickenburg, Arizona, and “Life Gate;” a residential treatment facility for adolescents and their families.

Al resides in Mesa, Arizona with his wife Susan. They have four children.

E-mail Al at: clergycare@earthlink.net Or write to: Alfred H. Ells, M.C., Counselor’s Corner, 2855 East Brown Road, Suite 3, Mesa, Arizona 85213, U.S.A. Phone:(480) 325-9350.

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A note from Gail: I like Job 22:30 in amplified bible A person can repent  for and ask forgiveness for the sin they see in the other person. They can also speak things that aren’t as though they are Job22:28  (so speak the things you want for this person in Jesus’s Mighty Name )

LORD I SPEAK SALVATION< SANTIFICATION< DELIVERANCE<HEALING BY FAITH FOR __________________  IN JESUS NAME AMEN

Job 22:30

Amplified Bible (AMP)

30He will even deliver the one [for whom you intercede] who is not innocent; yes, he will be delivered through the cleanness of your hands.(A)

http://www.prayers.org/viewprayer.asp?id=191   

http://www.ekklesia.lt/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/Kenneth-E-Hagin-The-Art-of-Intercession.pdf Handbook Intercession added 12/4/11   OUTSTANDING!!!!

http://www.biblestudytools.com/kjv/isaiah/passage.aspx?q=isaiah+44:3-4 insert the name of the one you are praying for in this scripture!!

http://www.biblestudytools.com/kjv/deuteronomy/7-9.html  This one too :)http://www.biblestudytools.com/kjv/proverbs/11-21.html  :)http://www.hiskingdomprophecy.com/prayers/  added 5/12/13

http://fromtheheartogod.wordpress.com/2013/08/08/applying-the-blood-of-jesus/comment-page-1/#comment-1  How and what to pray!!  11/23/13

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL117E13F26B3EF765     2/13/14 Getting prayers answered

And God’s promises to us http://whatsaiththescripture.com/Promises/Clarkes_Bible_Promises.html

About nuggets4u

Born Again Christian since 1977 / Insurance Business / Nurse Natural health since 1986 Roots of disease since 2008 / Pastor Dr Gail www.homi.me I post information pertaining to/ natural health, Spirit, Soul, Body, Relationships, Finance, and World Affairs.
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11 Responses to How to pray For Someone In Bondage

  1. Assumption Alvares says:

    Thank you so much for ur web page at the moment my famly is tensed of my son in law who is in reahb for alcohol. I was just finding ways to pray for alcoholic’s and came accross ur page its a blessing I am more energised now to pray and fast and involve the whol family, and I know God will do the rest. once again thank you.
    God be with you

  2. Betty Anway says:

    My son who is 22 is going thru a horrific spiritual battle!! I am praying for him as he needs to come to know and accept Jesus as his Lord. He is battling with depression from his finance leaving with their 3month old daughter .. he has come close to succicide has gone back to heavy gambling and unable to pay bills. He is angry at her to turning to another man as soon as she left and words are bad between them. But he still loves her and is having a hard time walking away from possibility of her returning. Even when she says and does everything to hurt and discourage him.He is not eating and is losing weight. He gets angry and lets it out on me. I am looking for a way to pray for him.For his heart to be open to truth and evil spirits to be exposed. I need to know how to pray for him and stand in the gap for him. He now owes me money as well as many others. He is spiraling out of control. Can you help me? He has seen a counciler that his company pays for one time so far but I don’t know if he is being truthful on his problems.

  3. Betty Anway says:

    I don’t know if he is a Christian. He is paid by his company he works for. Also being that my don is not a Christian he wouldn’t go or see a minister. That’s what I sm up against. How can I approach him and not have him close me off all together? So I have been praying hard and standing in the gap. I haven’t shared all this to my Christian family members or friends. I feel like I would be gossiping or airing dirty laundry. That maybe they would judge him. Is that wrong of me to feel that way? And what is “soul ties”?

  4. Lorena Gastelo says:

    This has blessed me so much. I have my son Joshua who cant drink at all be ause he looses his temper in such a terrible manner. Please help me pray for his deliverance. Ive been going thru this since he was a young teenager. He will soon be 22. Also deliverance from any substance.

    • nuggets4u says:

      Touching and agreeing for his deliverance! Go to the search area on this blog type in lesson list and also type in divine health videos. You will find lots of nuggets there.

      Pastor Gail

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