FROM Gail’s LESSON LIST
SELF PITY AND VICTIMIZATION LESSON 9
SELF PITY
DEFINITION pity for oneself; especially: a self-indulgent dwelling on one’s own sorrows or misfortunes Websters online
crying towel An imaginary towel offered to the kind of person who chronically complains about ill fortune, minor defeats, or other adversities. The phrase can be used teasingly or judg-mentally, implying that one who needs a “crying towel” is unnecessarily wallowing in self-pity
cry on [someone’s] shoulder To reveal one’s problems to another person in order to get sympathy; to assail someone’s ear with one’s woes in an attempt to win pity or to get moral support.
| Synonyms: |
abomination, acceptance, ache, atrocity, be sorry for, bleed, bleed for, chanty, clemency, clementness, commiserate, commiseration, compassion, compassionate, condole with, condolence, crime, dejection, desecration, disgrace, distress, easiness, easygoingness, feel, feel for, feel sorrow for, feel sorry for, forbearance, forbearing, gentleness, humaneness, humanity, ignominy, infamy, lament for, laxness, lenience, leniency, lenientness, lenity, melancholy, mercifulness, mercy, mildness, misfortune, moderateness, patience, profanation, rue, ruth, sacrilege, sadness, scandal, shame, sin, softness, sorrow, sympathize, sympathize with, sympathy, tenderness, terrible thing, tolerance, violation, weep for |
SOME SIGNS INDICATING SELF PITY
*Most of your thoughts and words are about “I” “Me” “My”
*Spirit of replay will have you repeatedly tell your story of hurt in 3D to who ever will listen (sign of unforgiveness)
*A habit of saying or asking “Why me”? “Poor me” “Do you know what they did to me”?
*Feelings of injustice or unfairness
*May say “I always mess up” “I can never do anything right”
*A method of gaining attention can be learned as a child
* False martyrs draws attention by using hurts or disease to get sympathy (True martyr lays life down for right reasons in joy)
Self Pity is the super glue that keeps us in our past (Pastor Henry Wright). It binds us to unforgiveness because we are continually rehearsing what happened to us. You feel like you have a right to not forgive and are justified to feel sorry for yourself.
ROM 6:6
knowing this, that our 1old aself was 2crucified with Him, in order that our 3body of sin might be bdone away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin ;
that the body of sin might be destroyed:
by “the body of sin” is meant sin itself, which consists, as a body does, of various members; and also the power and strength of it, which the Jews F19 call (erh ruyd alyx) , “the power of the evil imagination”; this is crucified with Christ, and nailed to his cross by his sacrifice and satisfaction, that its damning power might be destroyed, abolished, and done away: and it is crucified by the Spirit and grace of Christ, that its governing power might be took away, and that itself be subdued, weakened, and laid under restraints, and its members and deeds mortified:
that henceforth we should not serve sin;
not that it should not be in us, for as yet, neither by virtue of the sacrifice of Christ, nor by the power of his grace, is sin as to its being removed from the people of God: but that we should not serve it, make provision for it, indulge it and obey it, in the lusts thereof. JOHN GILL
STRONG’S #264 “SIN”
| 1. to be without a share in
2. to miss the mark
3. to err, be mistaken
4. to miss or wander from the path of uprightness and honour, to do or go wrong
5. to wander from the law of God, violate God’s law, sin |
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Definition of MIGHT
a: the power, authority, or resources wielded (as by an individual or group)
b (1): bodily strength (2): the power, energy, or intensity of which one is capable <striving with might and main>
Synonyms: energy, firepower, force, horsepower, power, muscle, potence, potency, puissance, sinew, strength, vigor
Antonyms: impotence, impotency, powerlessness, weakness
WE HAVE AUTHORITY WITH CHRIST OVER THE BODY OF SIN. WE MUST APPROPIATE THIS AUTHORITY! WE CHOOSE MOMENT BY MOMENT WHO WE WILL SERVE. WE ARE IN CHARGE OF THE LAND (OUR SOUL) WHICH IS MIND WILL EMOTIONS
ROM 6:13
and do not go on 1presenting athe members of your body to sin as binstruments of unrighteousness ; but 2present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as cinstruments of righteousness to God.
Neither yield ye your members
The apostle more fully explains what he means by obeying sin in the lusts thereof; a presenting, or making use of the “members, as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin”: by their “members” he means the several powers and faculties of the soul, and so the Ethiopic version renders it, “your souls”; or the several parts of the body, or both; by “yielding”, or presenting of them, is designed the employment of them in the service of sin,
as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin:
that is, as means of performing unrighteous actions, in obedience to sin, or the corruption of nature with its lusts: the word translated “instruments”, signifies “arms” or “weapons”: so the ancients F23 formerly reckoned weapons the members of soldiers; and here the apostle calls the members weapons, which he would not have the saints use in favour of sin, an enemy and a tyrant; for that would be unrighteous in itself, and injurious to God and themselves: says he,
but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead:
that is, present themselves soul and body to God, give up and devote themselves to him, and to his service, and yield a cheerful obedience to him; considering themselves as under great obligation so to do, inasmuch as they are freed from condemnation and death, by the righteousness of Christ; and quickened, when dead in trespasses and sins, by his Spirit and grace; and therefore should yield
your members,
their whole selves,
as instruments,
or weapons
of righteousness unto God;
by fighting against sin, revenging all disobedience, and fulfilling obedience to the commands of God: the same is here meant, as is by putting on “the armour of light” ( Romans 13:12 ) , and wearing and making use of “the armour of righteousness, on the right hand and the left”, ( 2 Corinthians 6:7 ) . JOHN GILL
SELF PITY can be an addiction, it is like a drug! What poison is to food, self pity is to life. It is one of the highest manifestations of “pride” (Doesn’t want to listen, interrupts, talks incessantly you may wonder how they breathe). It works well with depression, and a person walking in it will have extreme manipulation tendencies. When you do not yield to it prepare for “anger” and when you do not cater to it you may end up on the persons hit list of retaliation (armor of bitterness).
This spirit is fear based. In an adult pity becomes a burden to the carrier and to the poor people who have to live with them. Self pity produces a pitiful life, it paralyzes your thoughts and feelings, and will try to punish others (It wants to destroy and control the people around it). Self pity wants to always blame others or the person themselves.
Very little changes will happen in a life that remains captive to Self pity. The person that succumbs to this may not be an overcomer.
REV 2:7 He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches; To him that overcometh will I give to eat of the tree of life, which is in the midst of the paradise of God.
STRONG’S #3528 “OVERCOMETH”
- to conquer
- to carry off the victory, come off victorious
- of Christ, victorious over all His foes
- of Christians, that hold fast their faith even unto death against the power of their foes, and temptations and persecutions
- when one is arraigned or goes to law, to win the case, maintain one’s cause
STRONG’S #2222 “LIFE”
- life
- the state of one who is possessed of vitality or is animate
- every living soul
- life
- of the absolute fulness of life, both essential and ethical, which belongs to God, and through him both to the hypostatic “logos” and to Christ in whom the “logos” put on human nature
- life real and genuine, a life active and vigorous, devoted to God, blessed, in the portion even in this world of those who put their trust in Christ, but after the resurrection to be consummated by new accessions (among them a more perfect body), and to last for ever
LOOK UP THE WORD ACCESSIONS (STRONG’S 2222) IN THE SYNONYMS. IT ALLUDES TO OUR ASSIGNMENTS A BILLION YEARS FROM NOW….AND FOR ALL ETERNITY! THE SYNONYMS ARE CLEAR THAT THIS IS OUR REWARDS, POSITIONS, AND ASSIGNMENTS!! IT WILL BE ACCORDING TO OUR RECORD OF OBEDIENCE HERE AND ALSO THE DOCTORINE WE HAVE IN OUR SOULS. THE LORD CLEARLY SHOWED ME IN A VISION THAT A GRANDMOTHER ON HER KNEES WILL HAVE A HIGHER POSITION THAN A HIGH OFFICIAL (EG PRESIDENT NATION) IN ETERNITY.
1 Sam 15:23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft,a and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.
Gen 3:11-12 Adam did not cover his wife. Adam blamed his wife and did not take responsibility. This is an ingredient in self pity.
We must take responsibility in our lives and fight the good fight against the kingdom of Eph 6. The length and quality of our life here depends on this, as well as our assignments for eternity.
ANTIDOTE FOR SELF PITY
2COR10:5 Take thoughts captive (No one can do this for you)
1THESS 5:16 & 18 vs. 16 Rejoice vs. 18 Give thanks
Rev 12:11
11And they over came him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death. We are blessed in our moment of time. We do not have to die martyrs. We need only our flesh to die. When we get rid of the pain, and regrets, we are on the road to maturity and boy do we have a testimony! Amen?
COL1:22-29 23 “If” ye continue in the faith grounded and settled
In the doctrine of faith which they had received and embraced; and in the grace of faith, and the exercise of it which was implanted in them; and in the profession of faith which they had made: not that the virtue and efficacy of Christ’s blood, sufferings, and death, and reconciliation of their persons to God thereby, depended upon their faith, and abiding in it; but that faith and continuance in it were necessary means of their presentation in unblemished holiness and righteousness; for if they had not faith, or did not abide in it or if the good work of grace was not wrought upon their souls, and that performed until the day of Christ, they could not be presented holy and blameless: this shows the necessity of the saints’ final perseverance in faith and holiness, and is mentioned with this view, to put them upon a concern about it, and to make use of all means, under divine grace, to enjoy it; and nothing could more strongly incline and move unto it, than the blessed effect of Christ’s death, reconciliation and the end of it, to present the reconciled ones blameless; in order to which it is necessary they should hold on and out to the end: JOHN GILL
LUKE 10:27 27And he answering said , Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.
Real agape love is not self focused, it is focused on others. It does not walk around talking about oneself all the time. (Tame your tongue LESSON 10 J )
In a book by Cindy Jacobs on warfare she had a list regarding some of the rights we must give up in order to tear down strongholds; 1st to conquer in the spiritual battle “SELF”
THE RIGHT TO BE OFFENDED
THE RIGHT TO OUR TIME
THE RIGHT TO DO WHAT WE WANT WITH OUR POSSESSIONS
THE RIGHT TO SELF PITY
THE RIGHT TO SELF JUSTIFICATION
THE RIGHT TO BE UNDERSTOOD
THE RIGHT TO CRITICIZE
Some diseases that may have a root in self-pity (Not all inclusive)
MCSE ECZEMA RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS INTERSTIAL CYSTITIS
CANCER PROFILES
FOR MORE ROOTS GO TO www.beinhealth.com 7000 club or submit a diagnosis to us for research for any possible roots.
Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ I choose to confess, repent, renounce and forsake participation with _______ (identify EG Self Pity) I ask for forgiveness and renounce all curses associated with the spirits assigned to me and that the curse be broken in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
I recognize and take responsibility in the generations of my family on both sides going back to Adam and Eve for our participation with all spirits of (identify)
I release myself from any guilt, shame, condemnation and any curses due to ______ (identify)
*Lord Jesus, I shatter, cut off and dissolve the power of the spirits of_(SELF PITY MINISTRY LIST BELOW)______ (*Name them all ) in my life.
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and by the power of the Holy Spirit, I cancel all of Satan’s power and authority over me because of ______ (identify) In Jesus’ mighty name I cast you out and command you to go quietly now.
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I command all tormentors and principalities of bitterness, self bitterness, jealousy and envy, rejection, fear, doubt/unbelief, occult, and any other spirits that have been assigned to me because of _______ (identify) to leave me now, without causing any damage, and go to the dry place.
Father God thank you for the Holy Spirit. Thank you for healing my heart, my soul (mind, will, emotions), and body, Please reveal your loving words of truth to me.
TWOLI Pastor Dr. Gail Blair Psalm 25 www.nuggets4u.wordpress.com Type in lesson list (search area)
SELF PITY MINISTRY LIST
**** DEPRESSION, STUBBORNESS, IDOLATRY, WITCHCRAFT, REBELLION, REJECTION, BITTERNESS, UNFORGIVENESS, EXCESSIVE TALKING, OFFENSE, BLAME, POWERLESSNESS, ADDICTION, RETALIATION, MURMURING, COMPLAINING, IDOLATRY, MANIPULATION, CONTROL, PRIDE, FALSE MARTYR, FEAR, SELF PITY, WRONG THOUGHTS, WEAKNESS, INDULGENCE, NOT DISCERNING THE BODY, INCESSANT TALKING, UNFORGIVENESS, NOT DISCERNING THE BODY
VICTIM SPIRIT
DEFINITION of VICTIMIZE
1
: to make a victim of
2
: to subject to deception or fraud : cheat
victim as a living being offered as a living sacrifice; an individual injured or killed by disease or accident, a person cheated, fooled or injured (a victim of circumstances or “accident prone”). Webster’s Dictionary
SYNONYMS
beat, bilk, bleed, cheat, chisel, chouse, con, cozen, defraud, diddle, do, do in, euchre, fiddle, flimflam, gaff, gyp, hose [slang], hustle, mulct, nobble [British slang], pluck, ream, rip off, rook, screw, shake down, short, shortchange, skin, skunk, squeeze, stick, stiff, sting, sucker, swindle, thimblerig, fleece
OVERCOMING THE VICTIM SPIRIT by Arthur Burk, Plumbline Ministries
What is the “Victim Spirit”? It can refer to one of two things: (1) a mindset that people develop that can invite victimization from others, or (2) an actual demon attracted to people to cause identifiable and undesirable consequences. In reality, the two are intertwined. The victim spirit of an individual begins in the mindset, opening the doorway to demon oppression.
In what ways does the victim spirit pervade your life? Here are some worse case scenarios:
- Boundaries — your personal boundaries (if you have any) are consistently violated by others, as if they treat you in contempt
- Abuse — you’re easily trapped by people who want to physically, sexually, emotionally, spiritually, or financially abuse you, and you excuse their behavior as inevitable because that’s what you deserve
- Dishonor — people who are normally gracious with others are drawn into taking cheap shots at you to your face
- Deception — you accept abuse from others because you’re used to it and don’t see that there’s another way to live
- Ministry — you don’t feel worthy of being able to share what you’ve learned about God
- Values — you easily absorb the values of the secular world around you
- Joy — you have none, nor any hope of having any, you’re numb to the world around you (BITTERNESS STEALS YOUR JOY )
- Potential — as far as you’re concerned you have no potential, only the people around you are worth anything, even if they’re perpetrators of abuse
- Curses and Blessing — you’re cursed from birth by the family you’re born into, your sex, your appearance, your personality; everything about you is cursed and you feel you have no future
In what ways does the victim spirit manifest itself? Here are a few examples:
- Destruction — unconscious self-destruction and being accident-prone
- Injustice — consistently finding yourself in situations where the rules are being violated at your expense and there’s nothing you can do about it
- Malpractice — always picking the doctor that’s the most incompetent
- Devouring — constantly having people take advantage of you financially, not being able to get a grip on your finances, having constant emergencies that drain your bank account or put you in debt
- Defilement — being a target for sexual advances or innuendo no matter how modestly you act or dress (THE VICTIM SPIRIT IS LIKE A BIG MEGAPHONE CALLING THESE PEOPLE AROUND YOU!!)
- Abuse — habitual attraction to the “wrong” kind of relationships
How does walking in God’s Dominion Mandate change your life?
- Boundaries — predators pull back from you and everyone around you, people are safer when they’re around you
- Respect vs. Abuse — others protect and nurture you because you’re worth it and you know it
- Honor vs. Dishonor — honor naturally flows toward you in formal and informal ways
- Reality vs. Deception — you recognize that God, your Father, loves you for who you are and blesses you with gifts throughout the day
- Ministry — you deeply desire greater power and anointing to make a difference in the lives of those around you
- Values — you embrace God’s values and not the world’s, and because of this, you have the power to change the entire culture
- Joy — your anointing is so infectious that it infects the land, the surroundings, and the people you’re around; joy remains after you’re gone
- Potential — you seek God to find out from Him His design of your nature and His call on your life
- Curses and Blessing — there is life-giving virtue in your words
- Thanks to Plumbline Ministries for this information!!!
A victim spirit rarely operates alone, it’s job is to attract other demon spirits. Self pity and victimization work well together. Self pity says you are entitled that you are a victim.
A person trapped in this bondage will see no way out and eventually can give up and settle for a much less blessed life than what God has for them. They do not receive compliments or affirmation because they feel they are unworthy.
Trapped they may turn to alcohol and drugs. They will attempt to smother their hurts away. Another way would be to become a workaholic or perfectionism. (Addiction spirit joins in * food * drugs * alcohol *work)
They criticize and dishonor themselves with unfriendly inner self talk. When someone around you is unhappy you own their negativity, and apologize even though it is not your fault you assume blame (False burden bearing) Others may try to suppress the emotional pain with endless work and busyness. People may offer nurturing but it will not be accepted because the victimized person feels unworthy of love and attention.
Negative thinking and confusion are two of the fruits of Victimization. The Victim will tend to assume the worse therefore they actually project more of the same into their future with stinkin thinkin.
Torment can come from victimization. This happens from continual replay of trauma incidents over and over. (We must go back to lesson 2 Bitterness and Unforgiveness Remember unforgiveness keeps a record of wrongs.)
This spirit likes to orchestrate a trauma event in children (sexual abuse) to get an early start.
The child may receive special treatment in the daylight hours to justify violation in the night or when alone with the violator.
National statistics say 33% females molested before age 18
25% of males molested by age 18. Statistics say every granddaughter of a molested woman will be molested!! This spirit must be dealt with! This happens because these spirits travel in the generations (Victim Predator Familiar spirits as an example)
This spirit quenches our belief in God’s Promises and steals our identity in Christ. It will have a person constantly focusing on climbing out of the mud pit. It will have one believe that her husband had a bad day at work…This is why he beats and abuses. Making the wrongs seem right.
It will have a woman think that she is submitting and this is her bed, she made it, so now she must lie in it. Pastor Henry at Be in Health teaches we are not to submit to sin out of love. Abuse is sin. Whether it be physical, verbal, or even financial,
We must take responsibility to be set free of a victim spirit. When we deal with the unloving, rejection, and victim spirits, we then must take our thoughts captive as we walk out of the influence these spirits have had on us and in our generations.
We must become beacons of light and life givers, instead of operating in the draining spirit of victimization.
We must stop living to enable the predator; stop thinking that if you enable them better you will have less pain.
We are not to agree with the enemy and say that all males in bloodline die by 6o yrs old, or that cancer runs in the family tree. Instead we say I shall not die but live!! We speak against these lies of the enemy and cancel these curses in Jesus mighty name.
REMOVAL OF VICTIMIZATION
We must go forward and form boundaries, borders, and backbone! The temporary pain of changing one’s life for the better is well worth the battle, especially since future generations are involved!
TAKE ALL THOUGHTS CAPTIVE (Practice the 8 R’s)
SPEAK GODS WORD TO ENACT CHANGE DAILY
SET UP GODLY BOUNDARIES
REJECT “ALL” ABUSE AND NEGLECT
FIND OUT YOUR IDENTITY IN CHRIST
STEP OUT INTO GOD’S PLAN FOR YOU
Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ I choose to confess, repent, renounce and forsake participation with _______ (identify EG Victimization) I ask for forgiveness and renounce all curses associated with the spirits assigned to me and that the curse be broken in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
I recognize and take responsibility in the generations of my family on both sides going back to Adam and Eve for our participation with all spirits of (identify)
I release myself from any guilt, shame, condemnation and any curses due to ______ (identify)
*Lord Jesus, I shatter, cut off and dissolve the power of the spirits of_______ (*Name them all VICTIM SPIRIT LIST BELOW ) in my life.
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and by the power of the Holy Spirit, I cancel all of Satan’s power and authority over me because of ______ (identify) In Jesus’ mighty name I cast you out and command you to go quietly now.
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I command all tormentors and principalities of bitterness, self bitterness, jealousy and envy, rejection, fear, doubt/unbelief, occult, and any other spirits that have been assigned to me because of _______ (identify) to leave me now, without causing any damage, and go to the dry place.
Father God thank you for the Lord Jesus and the Holy Spirit thank you for healing my heart, my soul (mind, will, emotions), and body, please refill me and reveal your loving words of truth to me.
http://www.hope4u.ca Dr. Gail Blair
www.nuggets4u.wordpress.com TYPE IN LESSON LIST (SEARCH AREA)
MINISTRY VICTIM SPIRIT
**** OCCULTISM, UNLOVING, UNFORGIVENESS, BITTERNESS, UNBELIEF, ABUSE, TORMENT, MOLESTATION, PERVERSION, PREDATOR, DISHONOR, CRITICIZE, LACK OF RESPECT, UNLOVING, SELF PITY, FALSE BURDEN BEARING, NOT DISCERNING THE BODY, INNER CORRECTING, CHEATED, POWERLESS, TRAPPED, ANGER, DECEIVED, DISRESPECT, FALSE HUMILITY, NOT DISCERNING THE BODY, HARASSED, UNWORTHY, ENABLER, FEAR, VIOLATED, SUPPRESS, NEGLECT, TOLERATE, CORRUPTED MINDSET,
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