How does a woman without a husband submit to God’s Order in the house.
Particularly as it relates to the fact that there is not a husband Provider in the house?
From a former teaching:
Many times, men have not represented Father God or the Lord Jesus properly. Women were created by God to be covered by proper male leadership.
If a woman is not married, she is betrothed to the Lord Jesus as her husband-to-be, according to the Scriptures. Until that time of the Marriage of the Lamb, she is in her Father’s house. God the Father is her covering.
However, because of the failure of many fathers to nurture their daughters, sometimes a woman will try to become strong. She will try to be in leadership in order to prove to her father that she can gain his approval. This can come in many ways, including success orientation. There are many doorways and pathways that force a woman to become the head of a family.
Deep in their hearts, women do not like to be the head of anything. They really don’t. Women really want to be covered and catered to. They want to smell good, look good, and be loved. Women want to be accepted and be weak, but not in the negative sense. The Scriptures say that women are the weaker vessel.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
This is not a negative statement, and it does not diminish who women are. This just means that, in the order of strength, women are not supposed to be the strongest. There has to be something stronger over women where they can run to be protected and feel safe.
Women were designed by God to follow proper spirituality. If there is not proper spirituality to follow, she doesn’t do well. She can create her own spirituality in order to compensate for the lack thereof. Sometimes it is the Holy Spirit that allows that, and sometimes it is not.
Many women feel uncovered and do not feel nurtured. Many women feel like they have to be strong. Some women are the spiritual heads of their home, even if they are married. If this is the case, Satan will come and accuse them. He does this because women know they do not like being the head. They know that they don’t want to do it.
Now, you can be a woman of God and still keep your peace. You can be uncovered and not lose your peace. You can even be the head and keep your peace. But Satan wants to come and condemn you to stop this from happening.
The Lord Jesus is your betrothed husband-to-be. This is by the revelation of the Word and the Spirit of God. This allows women to come to a place they can accept that. Then, if the Lord Jesus decides to share them with a man and they get married, it is by His permission. It is by the Lord’s permission that He allows people to get married.
This will stretch you, won’t it? When you read the Scriptures, they say marriage is by the permission of the Lord. If a man marries, he has not sinned. The Scriptures also say it would be best if a man didn’t marry because, if he gets married, he shall have trouble in the flesh.
Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 1 Corinthians 7:27-28
If a man has trouble in the flesh and he does not like it, then maybe he should not have married. People do not always get married for the right reasons. They may get married out of lust. They may get married out of loneliness. They may get married out of revenge.
For women, the Father is your covering, you are in your Father’s house. You can either accept that or reject it. He can give you strength and sustain you in it. You need to be released from this burden you are carrying unnecessarily.
Some women wonder why the Lord hasn’t given them a husband. Maybe it’s because they would destroy the marriage the minute it started and it wouldn’t be a marriage of peace. Instead, it would be a marriage of torment. Sometimes, because women are not married, they get mad at God for not giving them a man.
God is smarter than we are. He is having mercy on the man because the woman may have some things to work out in herself. Some men wonder why they don’t have a wife yet. Maybe it is because He’s having mercy on the woman and there is something inside the man that may make her miserable. So, if you are not married, it may be because both of you have some things to work through.
Satan may want to put you together in a relationship fast. God may want to keep you apart until you get delivered. God wants you happy, not miserable. God wants you to be peacemakers, not troublemakers. Some women have closed their hearts to a godly man being their husband because of bitterness against God.
Women also don’t do very well when they have been betrayed by someone that they have given their heart to. They are designed by God to stay loyal to a mate for life, providing Satan does not get into the relationship and destroy it or cause problems.
Women are designed by God to be covenant keepers, not covenant breakers. This is especially true in pregnancy, because this means a woman has given her heart to her husband. In the union with her husband, life has been created and she has given her heart to the man, as well as her body. This is a part of the union and the covenant of the relationship. As a result of this union, a child is conceived.
One of the most incredibly damaging things to a woman is adultery. This is the highest level of the breaking of a covenant that a woman can experience. There is nothing higher in the breaking of a covenant with a woman, than a husband who is not faithful to her.
There is also another type of betrayal. This comes from a father who accuses his daughter. This type of betrayal is very damaging because Self-Hatred, Self-Pity and Guilt can come into the woman from her father’s words. Her father’s words can remain strong against her years later. If she continues to carry this burden, it can make her feel uncovered, unsafe and full of fear. In this case, she needs to be released from this